After reading the question regarding how I handle anger, I
came to the conclusion that I’m someone that usually remains calm during bouts
of anger. In rare instances, I
will blow up and express my anger so it is evident to everyone around me that
I’m unhappy. I believe blowups are
caused by keeping anger inside and not dealing with the problem. When dealing with family members and
friends, I tend to do this. Once
the amount of pent up anger adds up, a blow up with eventually happen. If I’m out in public and someone disrespects me or the people that
I’m with, I usually try to remain calm and handle the conflict so that all
parties involved leave being happy with the end result. I will occasionally blow up if things
get physical or something totally uncalled for happens. In the end, I believe that it’s best to
confront the person or situation that is making the individual unhappy. That
pent up anger could lead to an unfortunate blowup that the individual may later
regret.
Hello, SCbaseball!
ReplyDeleteI have similar reactions to some of the instances you have brought to light in your post. I also believe that withholding unresolved anger can lead to blowups, and I also tend to do this with people who I am close with such as family members. I think it is easier to do this with family and friends because they are close relationships that are harder to tarnish, so it is easier to be honest with them about one's feelings. I like your point about remaining calm in public. I do this as well to avoid making a scene or drawing negative attention to myself and others involved. Good analysis!
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ReplyDeleteI believe that I am like you when it comes to dealing with anger. I will usually remain calm during situations and I rarely ever have blow ups. I think that people are more likely to have blow ups around family members, because it is easier to express your anger around people you trust and ones that you know wont judge you for it. I also try to make everyone happy and to make sure that I remain calm even f I am extremely frustrated or pissed off. I had said that if someone had made me angry and I blew up at them, then it would make them uncomfortable and the situation would either become worse, or not resolved at all. Great post and I agree with the things you mentioned.
Like you, I also remain pretty calm during bouts of anger. I feel that the best way to express yourself when you’re angry is to do it in a calm manner so people take you more seriously. Some of my friends who express themselves in more theatrical ways tend not to be taken as seriously. However, sometimes I also will blow up if I keep things in for too long. I think that’s everyone though. It is hard sometimes to always talk about everything that bothers us.
ReplyDeleteYour last point I completely agree with. It is in our best interests to confront the situation head-on right away to avoid potential blow ups. As creatures of communication, when we stray from that path and become silent is when problems tend to arise.