When having a conversation with someone, I try to keep
steady eye contact and listen to every word the person is saying. If I feel like I'm getting distracted or
start thinking about my own ideas, I'll again check if I'm looking them in the
eyes and sort of refocus. I feel that
looking someone in the eyes while they are speaking is a huge sign of
respect. When you do this, it shows that
you are really listening to every word that is coming out of their mouth. After listening to someone speak, I can
usually recite what they said pretty easily.
Listening is one of my strengths, especially during a time of
conflict. If I'm ever confused about
something that was said, I will always ask questions to have them clarify. This is helpful and also prevents any
additional problems due to the confusion.
Having a clear understanding of what the person said can also help
create a very strong counterargument.
I found your post to be interesting because I think that I am actually completely the opposite of this. I usually try to look at someone’s face out of respect and especially when I am talking to them. However, I find that I concentrate best on what people are saying when I am not looking at them directly. I go as far as to look at people's noses as opposed to looking at their eyes. For some reason, making direct eye contact with someone while their talking distracts me more and I almost feel like it makes many people uncomfortable. However, I definitely do ask people questions to clarify what they are saying. Doing this helps me to stay on track with our conversation, but it also helps me to understand their problem and perspective even more clearly.
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