Week 5 Post 3

This week, I felt that the most interesting part of the chapter was the part on the S-TLC system.  It was interesting to read about all the different parts of the system and then picture how I've handled past conflicts.  Overall, I deal with conflict fairly well.  I don't like when people are angry with me, so I do my best to resolve negative issues right away.  In my other post, I stated how important "stopping" is for me during conflict.  Without stopping, it is hard to complete the rest of the system.  By stopping, a person gets a chance to clear their head and are usually able to think straight after the break.  Thinking is also an important part of the system.  This is where I usually dream up my argument and also take into account the thoughts and feelings of the other person.  When it comes to listening, I always give my full, undivided attention to whoever is speaking to me.  Disruption and lack of interest shows complete disrespect.  Finally, after piecing everything together, communication is necessary.  This is where both parties get to say everything that they want in order to try and resolve the conflict.  In conclusion, I chose this system as the most important aspect of the chapter because it directly effects my life.  Like I previously stated, I don't like conflict and this is a big piece of getting everything settled.