For me, it really depends who I'm in the middle of a
conflict and how severe it is. If I'm
involved in a conflict with someone close to me, it is usually hard for me to
stop. I don't like being mad at the
people I care about and try to solve the problem as quickly as I can. After reading the chapter, I now see how
stopping can be an effective tool to help stop an ongoing conflict. There are times where I can stop and exit the
room and come in with a fresh perspective.
For me, leaving the room is the most effective tactic. I let the person know that I will be right
back and basically take a timeout. This
usually helps me gain some composure and also lets the other person calm down
as well. I'm someone that takes things
personally, so getting away from the situation for a minute or two is extremely
helpful in calming me down and letting me collect my thoughts.
I can relate to what your saying ,about when the conflict involves me in it and with someone close to me I don’t always want to stop the conflict, because I fear it will make the issue bigger and into something it isn’t. When I argue with someone close to me I want to resolve the issue right away, because I cant stand the thought of being mad at that person. I like you, sometimes takes things personally, especially with certain topics. I find that just walking away for a minute or two, or simply taking a deep breath helps you gather your thoughts and calm down from a situation. I think this is where step 2 of the S-TLC comes in, where thinking before you act allows you to process everything. So walking away from that heated conversation allows you to think things through in a more calm mindset.
ReplyDeleteHello, SCbaseball!
ReplyDeleteI agree that it is hard to stop in the middle of a conflict with someone who I am close with, because that is when I feel most comfortable being myself and true to my emotions. Also, more emotions tend to be involved when it is a conflict with someone I am close to, so it is harder to act rationally. I also said that stepping out of the room, and the conflict, for a short period of time is the most useful tactic for me. I need to gain some perspective and calm myself down before continuing a heated dispute with another person. I think it is best to relax and clear my thoughts before re-entering the conversation.